This is where the new Code of Conduct is from
https://geekfeminism.org/about/code-of-conduct/
On the imported version, it defines other new terms, but it doesn't define "misgendering". As a basis, it is the wrong rule to add, but for online interaction, it makes little difference. This code of conduct is for the physical world too, and rules about misgendering there have serious implications. However, people shouldn't be reprimanded for using labels that they don't understand, they disagree with, or they think is a fantasy. Apart from the Code of Conduct being unprofessional, rules about misgendering have to go. My impression is that the people who wrote those rules, aren't listening to anyone, because that is final. They are as much to blame for harming FreeBSD as the trolls who I find a nuisance.
My instinctive reaction was, it's a code of conduct that promotes civility, and respect for people's chosen names or handles. The only requirement is, to treat people with respect, including don't show malice to people for being transgender. This is what I thought it was about, and what I agree with.
I've had coworkers who were transgender. And in one case, one (post-op) identified as a woman, but he was not allowed to use the women's restroom. I don't know if they were allowed in the men's restroom, because they didn't enter it. They used a gender neutral or family restroom. If I remember correctly, everyone called him a he, and was polite to that person. The person tried to correct us about he is a she. I didn't argue, but I ignored it, and returned to calling him a he. No one got in trouble for that, and no one should. It is fine with me, if he wants to tell everyone he is a she all day, but no one should ever get in trouble or calling him a he. Another transgender was in HR, who was in hiring position of half of the staff, and if this person said if he is a she, that's it, I'm not arguing. If I had malice towards this person, I wouldn't have gotten in the door. I have no malice towards them.
No one should get in trouble for using labels about gender that they don't agree with or don't understand. I've read an article on the Guardian, where someone was fired for calling a child by the gender they were born as. A child is too young to be having identity crises, and it is wrong to reinforce, and force everyone else to reinforce the idea that a child is a gender they are not. That to me is systematic badly placed reinforcement. At least let the child grow up to be an adult, before they decide there's a gender label they want to identify as.
My other instinctive reaction was, why are there trolls attacking an operating system that I've liked for years. That illustration is shameful to its illustrator. People coming here and trying to coerce others are just as wrong as the problem behind adding rules about misgendering.
Those who supposedly contact companies may be a nuisance to them later on, if they don't do what they say. Neither side should coerce! Don't make us follow a rule that is not related to respect and civility that many don't understand. Don't use threats of leaving and contacting people as leverage. If they were serious about leaving FreeBSD, they wouldn't keep trying to influence it by using coercion. If I want to leave something, I don't drag it out, unless it's difficult for me to do. Those who label others as social justice warriors push their weight around, the same as the opposing people who tie misgendering into rules. These rules about misgendering are akin to SystemD.
I haven't seen evidence of those who wrote those rules addressing its fundamental problems. I'm not going to take a stance of defending FreeBSD anymore.