This is a rather lengthy thread. Until now I read up to the 2nd page, and I did not find any concrete critics on any of the Coc's topics, rather than a vague anxiety & fear about the mere existence of such a collection of general behavioural rules written down. Reminds me of the attitude of some hardcore tea party followers (or Reichsbürger here in Germany): anything from "above" is threatening my freedom, don't dare you smart weisenheimers tell me what to do!
After all it was rightly stated there that much depends on how to handle such CoC in practice.
They pointed to an article that said how people got fired for referring to someone by the gender they were born as. It was likely the guardians who put it into the child's head, they were another gender, which is what should be looked at with concern, rather than someone trying to respect what the person as born as. I understand that, this point is overused. At first glance, the CoC looks simple like: behave and be fair, be courteous. However, it goes overboard.
If someone changes their name to "Ms." Mary, or "Flying Falcon" I'll call them by that name, and treat them with respect as I would to anyone else. Don't say, I must respect a label which I don't understand, however.
The CoC is overcompensating or overdoing it. It's inappropriate and stupid. In this forum, it has no effect, because I'll believe whatever someone says the are. For those in FreeBSD's working environment, it's not good. There's no reason for this.
The example given shouldn't be relevant, but the CoC makes it so, because it gives too much leeway for this specifically.
I'm tired of both sides complaining about blacklist or blocklist, or some song that does sound bad. Why is this used as a rally cry? This CoC contributes to this problem.