Hi all, and thanks to all of you for your opinions. I have some stuff to research now and I really do appreciate the input. I should clarify the need here.
I had a failure on the current gateway which caused some downtime - luckily it was easy to solve after a good night's sleep. But it did raise the issue that the gateway is about ten years old. It would be good to have a backup ready to go should it fail again. An
even older system here hosts the ZFS raid2-z NAS system.
I may not need ECC on a new system after second thought. I do prefer Intel NICs, thanks for pointing that out. Some PCIe expansion slots will be helpful, especially if the motherboard has only one NIC. I may wind up with 3 NICs ( does anyone still do DMZs for security? ) And this system likely will receive another ZFS raid system. This will be my first FreeBSD system with ZFS for the root; looking forward to BE. I think integrated video/graphic is good for me as I don't want to waste a PCIe slot on that. This will be run as a headless system, and video is likely to be attached only for initial setup and later to debug problems ( like failing hardware ).
I will NOT be playing games so I don't need any fancy graphics, nor will I be running a graphics desktop. No LLM work on this machine, but perhaps a jail or two. I think I can run any VMs I need on a different host.
Since I need a reliable machine I will be buying new equipment. There really isn't any heavy computing going on here, so I do not need a tons of cores, and I think 32 GB of memory should do. It will be powered up 24/7 being a gateway, so that is a vote against the biggest and fastest CPUs. In the future I may deploy a web server, mail server and DNS, also I have a SDR (software defined radio) that I will make available. Still thinking about how to deploy these "services" for the outside. I was lucky enough to register some IPv4 addresses long ago, but I have a lot to think about before those become visible. Security is an "interesting" problem -- lots to learn there.
Again, thanks everyone for your suggestions. I really do appreciate it.