is FreeBSD abusing me? One thing is for sure, I need to be less of a cry baby next time my system breaks.
AFAIK FreeBSD is not abusing you in a kind like other OSs abuse their users.
Cry baby? What cry baby?

You had a prob, you asked the community, you solved it.
Cry babies just drop bombs and are never seen again, not solving, not learning anything - maybe are back to Windows...

As I said in my first post, everybody had some kind of a breakdown at least once like that: You might think you know how to deal with this shit, but then suddenly it's fokked up, and you realized, you fokked it up yourself, because there still was an important lesson you did not learned yet so far.
Now you learned it.
And such things need a let out, of course - what you did by starting this thread.
At the same time you would not have started this thread - took the time to write an elaborated OP - if you really were dumping FreeBSD, jut dropping a bomb. I've seen some guys here, just dropping their shit bomb and never been seen again. But those don't take their time to really describe their prob, searching contact, asking really for help, by the community.
You did.
I'm pretty sure there was something deep inside you saying, 'yeah, fokk, fokk, fokkshit, BUT - wait a second. cool down! first listen, what the others tell. Let's solve that shit!'
And you did.
And that's exactly the difference between some one just taking a peek, and some one really got into FreeBSD.
Welcome.
In your other thread you reviewed in detail what caused your prob and how
you solved it.
That's engineering: find and document the problem and its solution.
So, lesson learned:
There is always a solution, 'cause you are using FreeBSD.

