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Trying not to cross a line here while also trying to share my personal take on the matter, perhaps violating a few rules in between. I was just heading out to get some sleep when I came across this and I can so awfully closely relate to some of the things you shared here...
Just for the record: I might be bending a few rules to try and get my somewhat personal point across, I have no intention what so ever to break the rules. Even so, I feel this needs to be done in the way I'm doing it. Apologies up front, but I honestly see no other way to share what I'm trying to share here.
cah said:
When I was hired as a tutor, I had a hard time reading the kinds of things that students came up with for theses and supporting arguments. My personality at the time was a bit much for some people, and I made it quite clear how I felt about the students work. I often would start thinking about the paper topic that they had and start to come up with ideas of my own, encouraging them to do way more research than they had planned. Eventually I was fired because I was not being an 'easy' tutor.
I could be all wrong here and as such make a complete fool of myself, but it's a risk I'm willing to take. I get the impression that you tried to get more out of your students than they would show because you had a hunch there was way more potential underneath than they would show. Whether or not that was so is something most likely no one can possibly answer but I get the impression this could be the underlying issue.
And I honestly think that anyone who has
seriously tried to help out others with their (technical) problems has experienced that very same feeling. Very hard to express but something in the likes of: "If you know how to setup and administrate a mail server then surely you should know that an open proxy is a horrible setup"? (open proxy: mail sent in from a public location can reach destinations within that same public location).
That was one of my rants before realizing that some people really don't know. They learned about MTA's, they learned about setting the whole thing up, but the one thing they didn't learn nor realized so far was that there were "bad guys" out there who would try and take advantage. Surely anyone with "
some" interest in the matter would know better?
But sometimes their interest doesn't go as deep as yours... And some honestly get stuck at the point which their tutors taught them.
cah said:
Funny thing was, I was not out of work long. I told some of my professors about it, and a couple of them wrote to my supervisor about why I should work as a tutor. It was a pump to my ego for sure, and it worked to get me hired again.
Looking back, I could have been a better tutor.
Here I go again, spouting off without even knowing the circumstances.. Even so: no, you couldn't have been in my opinion. The only thing you could have done different -in my very personal opinion- is bring the message a bit different. Or so I think.
But that, well, takes patience and some self understanding. Let me put this differently.. You're not alone there.
Totally different yet still related in my opinion: take
the rules of this very same forum we're all on. I only reread them because @DutchDeamon bumped them (and I thought there was something new). Let me put this differently, do you really think "those guys" (no disrespect) would put something like this in for no reason:
2 - Be respectful of all users at all times and respect the forum staff. This means please use etiquette and politeness. Treat people with kindness and gentleness. Be considerate to the person asking the question. We were all a green user at one point. Yes, some users are harder to help than others, but please be respectful to all users.
Please don't try to see something between the lines here, there is nothing but me just trying to get my point across.
But I can't help wonder if these issues don't overlap each other. The expectation of "if you know A then surely you know about B too because it's a given", even though to some people it's not that obvious.
Pardon me if I'm now completely ranting and totally off the mark (luckily we're in the off topic forum) but I honestly get the idea this could be an underlying issue.
cah said:
Most of my problem was my expansive ego at the time. I had just finished a book, and had gotten some cred around campus for one of my philosophy papers. I think I knew intuitively that tutoring was not really for me, but I needed money...
Self reflection and the openness to do just that is where it all starts in my opinion. And that, sir, honestly earns my respect even though we don't even know each other.
As mentioned earlier; apologies if I'm making some false assumptions or such but alas, there's nothing more I can add to this.
