"Google is your friend/RTFM" approach. For some reasons, nowdays, this approach is considered rude from many.
Point is, (many; majority?) today's people are lazy and spoilt, because they are used to just pick everything from silver platters they are offered to them by no request. They cannot even differ what comes from consumer industry for to sell something to them, or comes from other sources, like learning things for themselves, to do independently things by themselves, for themselves. Even that is for many not to grasp, way too abstract.
And they are used to anybody else has to do their thinking for them. You can see it daily in public: They blindly run everywhere not looking. They learned "you are the most precious creature, and everybody else have to look out for you." Well, partially yes, everybody has to look out for everybody. But when somebody suddenly jumps unexpected on the pedestrian crossing or simply stops directly at the very end of an escalator while other people follow, there simply is no chance at all to avoid a crash. Completely strange concept to many today. No understanding what I mean with this anymore. But of course it's not allowed to call them stupid. They are all Einsteins, of course. They learn less, they know less, they care less, because they don't have to anymore, but what they achieved best is not to be treated as what they actually are: idiots.
They want to ask questions like "How do I get a nice garden?", expecting
simple primitive answers like "Press the green button." And then there has to be a nice garden by just pressing a button. If not, others need to take care of that, beginning with the question, what a nice garden is - as they've seen in media, e.g. like some celebratie's garden. They are not even capable to decide anymore for themselves what nice is.
When some 'old farts' like me come along, asking questions, producing a problem instead of delivering solutions, give simple answers, like 'Define, what a nice garden for you is. What is its size? What climate region we are talking? There are many different kind plants, just ornamental or with fruits to eat. What do you want? They all need special treatment. For that there are different tools, fertilizer and other stuff. And there are additionally other things, like glass houses, toolsheds, ponds, with fish or without...' or the ultimate total overkill question, 'How many hours per week do you expect to spend on it?' they are overchallenged. Bluescreen.
They simply don't understand that there is a crucial difference between a question like this one, or a question like "Do I have to stop at a red light?", and not everything can be learned by just asking yes-no-questions.
They are
way beyond the understanding, that you may ask in a forums which tool is best to cut roses, but for such a large, general, open question how to create a garden anybody else can only give some rough pointers, but it's absolutely necessarily required to ask and answer a lot of questions yourself.
And that's best be done by reading one or sometimes even many books about a certain topic. Because books contain the comprehensive ideas, thoughts and experiences in an assorted way assembled what is needed to learn comprehensive things.
Otherwise it'll end up in dozens of threads lost in minor and already way to advanced details, while the very basics are completely lacking, like having discussions about the prices of noble kois while it's not even clear yet what a lawnmower is.
And it's also not seen, that all this fragmented short text postings not only deliver way less informations on a comprehensive topic than reading a comprehensible text, but in summary it's even more text.
So, trying to save reading and learning effort by reading evem more and learning less.
So, yes, even if "RTFM!" comes a bit rude, it's always with good intensions. It comes only rude, because deep down the addressed person knows she or he better had done it so in the first place and feels caught. Producing bad feelings is prohibited today. We all must live in pinky Disney crap denying reality to be lucky. But bad feelings like agony are for telling us something is wrong, so things can be corrected. Sometimes it's just because the others are idiots, but not always. And everybody better at least actually checks if it's really only because of others are the idiots instead of automatically always blame others for a bad feeling, and being in charge for delivering good ones.
On the other hand asking inconsiderate and silly questions, especially when the question is already answered, and then reacting pissed, when there is no quick, simple answer to complex questions, and finally blame others for not learning anything, so stealing other's time for being too lazy themself, is even more rude.
It is a first world problem, but it is annoying. But I do want to add that for new comers or non-native speakers, it's difficult to know the right way to do it. Most of the people on this forum, if not native speakers, still seem to have excellent English, and I will point out that we don't see any subjects like PLZ HELP!! BROKE SYSTEM, NEED HELP ASAP THX, so, I think people do make an effort.
