Thank you for volunteering to make a HowTo.
As far as I can see you came to FreeBSD with the wrong expectations, and I can see attempts by people to rectifiy your views, e.g. about KDE being an integral part of FreeBSD (or the other way around), whereas they are totally separate things, and will always be. You will have to perform the integration.
FreeBSD is a base OS, with everything else added to it, which is where you come in. You don't come in pushing buttons and moving sliders, you actually put the buttons and sliders in yourself. And you can do that in a few dozen different ways, none of which are prescribed, holy, or 'the only way'. Some find that distressing, others enjoy the sense of total freedom this gives them. You decide. Unfortunately, that also means responsibility, as is the case with any freedom.
It requires a certain mindset to work with FreeBSD, and it requires the occasional person wandering in and complaining about everything, to totally readjust their expectations, or move on. There is no middle ground. There's no real point in making remarks about KDE or ArchLinux (FreeBSD is neither, and it does not aspire to be), and how FreeBSD 'fails'. Your expectations fail. Adjust your expectations or your choice of OS.
You will have to configure a lot yourself. You will need to use the CLI a lot. You will have to alter ports, configuration files, and options. You may use one, two, or fifteen desktop environments and window managers, all at the same time. Or not a single one. Your choice, your responsibility. The OS is there, and it works.
That's exactly why a majority of its users use it: they run the OS and everything on top of it, the OS doesn't run them, obscuring everything behind a pretty GUI that makes everyone 'an average user' in the long run.
This is not a sermon, this is how I see FreeBSD. And it is also why I think you feel you're not being helped. But you are. Tough love may be more constructive than you think. We've had quite a few people round here who needed a reality check and a major expectation readjustment. Most of them now love FreeBSD. You will too. (I won't kid you: some people left, disgusted, dismayed or disappointed; I even had to ban one for constantly demanding help with turning FreeBSD into something it is not, and never will be; those cases are rare)
Good luck.
P.S. I merged the two separate threads.
P.P.S. I don't approve of GFY-style replies, but I don't mind a healthy dose of RTFM, as documentation is one of FreeBSD's strongest points