Ah, nothing has changed from my 2.2.5 days.
The answer to this question is that FreeBSD users simply bang their heads on things until they figure it out and expect everyone else to do the same. That way we're all adept at knowing all the problems we'll run into and how just about everything works, even if we don't want to know. Sometimes, a nice thing will come along such as freebsd-update and people will complain about how it "dumbs users down" from knowing how to recompile a kernel.
Anyway, I'm sorry. It probably shouldn't be like this but it is.