The NIC is an Intel I211 on both systems. Both systems are pretty identical except one was upgraded and one was clean installed. One has FIBS setup in rc.conf and sysctl.conf and the other one does not yet. Both systems use an Asus mini ITX motherboard. Both systems also use a USB ethernet adapter for their secondary ethernet connections. These USB ethernet devices have their own problems with going up/down without some workarounds. Also, I have used the error system for years without these problems appearing. One other thing I noticed is that ue0 on the error system is error free with no up/down events and on the control system ue0 (a different model adapter) has been having some up/down events. But I know the workaround for it I just have not set it up yet.
The directly connected method is fraught with problems like both systems being down and the fact that without continuous data being transferred like on the error system the problem may not show itself anyway. The error system is continuously streaming 2 HD ATSC streams which likely stresses the connection. The ATSC streams are blinking on and off today also which I am not sure is just issues at the transmitter/interference or a sign of system trouble. It has been glitching heavily like this since yesterday and this is with FreeBSD and the live USB. I am probably going to tune one of the streams to a completely different transmitter to troubleshoot that.
I am now posting from the Debian live USB. Another problem besides seeing the up/down in the log was apcupsd of which the error system was the master was causing disconnects around the network. I have enabled apcupsd on this live USB and started the 2 ATSC streams and I guess I will wait it out for a few days to see what happens unless anyone else has any suggestions. So far there are no ethernet disconnects, no errors logged in "ifconfig", and no apcupsd disconnects in the 45 minutes or so I have been booted up in the live USB. My guess is there will not be any real trouble here and the problem may be magically "fixed" when I boot back into FreeBSD due to the linux driver setting something in the hardware.
This reminds me of the time that I bought a low cost laptop about 10 years ago or more and when I booted it into FreeBSD the ethernet died permanently. I think I just returned that one and shrugged when someone tried to look at the OS on it. One of the few times that I have seen software kill hardware. Along with the old AMD CPUs that did not have temperature throttling and I have seen Linux ALSA fry a tablet speaker by sending it the wrong voltage or something. Story time over.