Danger.

Hi Alain,

good to see you back here!

Well, as I said (under my former username) you see yourself you have some problems, and you also understand you cannot simply solve them all by yourself alone. But they are solvable, and should be solved (We don't want to lose you too soon.)
Also "but" an internetforum like any other form of electronic communication is not the way it can be done. It's not there were no people who care about you, nor people weren't capable to help, it's just the medium that's improper to do the job.
So I say it again - and I mean it with all good intension from the bottom of my heart:
Look for some therapist in your local area - I'm pretty sure there must be some kind of a local addiction help, or just simply ask your personal physician. But this needs, and can only be done with real personal contact, in your native language, best.

I wish you the best. I'm here. But I cannot really help you.
 
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Edit: And thanks to address such subjects in public.
It's a highly underestimated issue that concerns many more as they think themselves.
 
alcohol, not so much. I can take it or leave it, but I have been hitting the cigars way too much the past couple of years...expensive habit. Thing is, the cigars are more due to boredom since I can't find meaningful consulting work: too old, too expensive, know way more than the whiz-kiddies interviewing me, and too intolerant of stuff that has become common in business.
 
Looks like you should apply for a CTO chair.
We had one guy at the UNI who had been in C-suite a long time and he coached the start ups, sat in the meetings, dealt with clients - showing the ropes and where the traps are. Start ups loved him, companies hated him. Would that interest you? A small pay from 10 startups can sum up nicely.

And go hiking. With a backpack (maybe later). That will underline the point of quitting the smoking.
 
Alain De Vos said:
Maybe a strange way to start a thread with danger. But I'm an alcohol addict and cigarette addict. It's both danger. Feel free to elaborate. I will appreciate.
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Hello, Alain, In the 1970s, my addictions were multiple. Too long to list them. One night, at the end of my ordeal, I reacted, a kind of revolt. I realized that life deserves to be lived fully, breathe, admire nature, get out of cities, flee the night while sleeping. Courage, but if we want, we can
 
fjdlr said:
In the 1970s, my addictions were multiple.
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I'm 53 years old; born 1971. In the 70's I not even became a teenager. My only addictions back then were Lego, Playmobil, chocolate milk, and cookies.
You claim you're 47 and already had "multiple addictions" in the 70s - tough call, plus you had an epiphany at age ~4 or 5, and changed your lifestyle - that's outstanding remarkable!
 
Maturin said:
I'm 53 years old; born 1971. In the 70's I not even became a teenager. My only addictions back then were Lego, Playmobil, chocolate milk, and cookies.
You claim you're 47 and already had "multiple addictions" in the 70s - tough call, plus you had an epiphany at age ~4 or 5, and changed your lifestyle - that's outstanding remarkable!
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I am 74 years old
Reverse 47 profil
 
I once spent a couple of nights in the hospital respiratory ward, for a bad chest infection. When the time came for me to leave, I went down to the entrance area and waited for my lift to come. As I was sitting there I noticed a young guy outside walking up and down talking busily into his mobile phone and smoking a cigarette. I thought to myself, "IF ONLY YOU COULD SEE WHERE I'VE JUST BEEN", the very sick patients lying in beds in the respiratory ward just a few hundred yards from where he was standing, oblivious. I know that sitting here at my desk, right now, just a few miles away there is another bunch of similar very sick poor patients stuck in that ward.

I suggest taking some advice from Dr Roger Seheult; he is a professor of respiratory medicine in California. Don't end up in the ICU if you can help it.

View: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/gxnbvuKWi0c
 
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blackbird9 said:
I once spent a couple of nights in the hospital respiratory ward, for a bad chest infection. When the time came for me to leave, I went down to the entrance area and waited for my lift to come. As I was sitting there I noticed a young guy outside walking up and down talking busily into his mobile phone and smoking a cigarette. I thought to myself, "IF ONLY YOU COULD SEE WHERE I'VE JUST BEEN", the patients in beds in the respiratory ward just a few hundred yards from where he was standing, oblivious.

I suggest taking some advice from Dr Roger Seheult; he is a professor of respiratory medicine in California.

View: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/gxnbvuKWi0c
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Wow, they still allow smoking around hospital entrances in England? I bet entrances to LHR/LTN/STN airports are healthier than that... in US, the standard is 10 feet away from entrances to public places like grocery stores, government offices and restaurants, and hospitals, I think, it's 30 feet away... in Cal, people stopped smoking even around bathrooms, and in Hawaii, smoking is prohibited on beaches.
 
astyle said:
Wow, they still allow smoking around hospital entrances in England?
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Everywhere in Europe. If you step in or come out of a hospital, departement store, train station, airport, restaurant, bar, disco... everywhere you always have to walk through a cloud, or at least the stink of not seldom smoking ashtrays.
Personally I find it just unpleasent but not dramatic. You will not produce lung cancer because you once smell some cigarette smoke. And knowing it I have no problem to hold my breath for the two or three steps until I passed. I do it also when I pass people closely (I didn't need no COVID to learn there are airborne germs.)
But anyway the number of smokers dropped significantly. Watch old TV shows from the 70s: Everybody was smoking. Not seldom the whole set was in fog. I don't want to imagine what it meant in an airplane, when two thirds of the passengers were all smoking the whole flight (Anybody witnessed a transatlantic flight in the 60s or 70s? I guess you could not have seen from one end of the cabin to the other 😂)
But even I experienced it myself I also find it today unimaginably, that not thirty years ago smoking in restaurants and trains (et al) was completely normal.

Looking back today seems like telling fairy tales from weird movies produced on crack.
Tell anyone <40 until the 80s for example we had decades of heavy arguments between those "fanciful crazy green crackpots" against the "only realistic scientificly thinking reasonables" to remove lead from car's gasoline.
("What?! There was lead in the gasoline?!" Yepp. But's a long story full off hair tearing and biting table edges, to be told another place another time.)

There are many of such stories. One could write a book:"They Really Were Completely Nuts!"
Currently again we live in a time, where such outrageous BS has a boom again.
But I don't wonder about stupidity brings wrong decisions. I wonder why it still always takes decades proven right and reasonable things to become finally reality, while at the same time stupid BS becomes reality faster as you may think democratic proccesses could work.
And our people fall for and vote those reason preventers and BS accelerators. :-/

Because of cannabis is still not legalized proves those "only realistic scientificly thinking reasonables" are complete nutcases. If I was some of those reason preventers and BS accelerators I'd legalized it a long time ago. What suits better than an uncaring cuz stoned society? 😁
And while at the same time it cost the society way less, alcohol, which is not only really expensive for our societies, but brings a lot of additional problems, such as destroying social live and leading to an early, nasty death, is still the only legal way to dim the lights for a couple hours... :-/
 
Maturin said:
Everywhere in Europe. If you step in or come out of a hospital, departement store, train station, airport, restaurant, bar, disco... everywhere you always have to walk through a cloud, or at least the stink of not seldom smoking ashtrays.
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From July 1, France has banned smoking in all places where children could be, such as beaches, parks, public gardens, outside of schools, bus stops and sports venues. I approve of this new law. Now, if only they could be obliged to pick up their dog shit...
 
Maturin said:
Everywhere in Europe. If you step in or come out of a hospital, departement store, train station, airport, restaurant, bar, disco... everywhere you always have to walk through a cloud, or at least the stink of not seldom smoking ashtrays.
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Have been to several hospitals in the past few weeks, you're not allowed to smoke anywhere on the hospital premise.
 
Alain De Vos said:
Maybe a strange way to start a thread with danger. But I'm an alcohol addict and cigarette addict. It's both danger. Feel free to elaborate. I will appreciate.
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Alain,

I believe that the addiction to anything, alcohol and cigarettes specifically for you, isn’t so much about the substances themselves, but more about a lack of balance in life. When we don't have enough positive activities to fill our day—like eating well, staying active, or finding ways to calm our minds—it's easy for certain habits to take over and become addictions, most likely because in a way, these habits become our way of dealing with stress or emptiness.

I think the key here is balance. If you were able to introduce more activities that promote mental and physical well-being—such as physical exercise, meditation, yoga, tai-chi, or simply taking time to relax without stress—it could help shift the focus away from substances. Once the other parts of life are in balance, a drink or a cigarette may not hold as much power over you. They may even become less harmful, as they’re no longer filling a void but just remain as they should be: occasional habits among other, healthier ones—like sex.

In short, it's not about eliminating everything, but about creating an environment where the harmful habits are no longer the main source of comfort and find a balance in life, and you might find that these addictions lose their grip on you.

And, I'm not sure if that is your case, but if too many thoughts, life dilemmas, regrets, they take over the mind, perhaps a good and deep analysis could also help to reflect.

I hope that helps and wish you all the best.

Cheers,

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astyle said:
Wow, they still allow smoking around hospital entrances in England?
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About 3 years ago that particular hospital declared a 'smoke free zone' around the main entrance and within a range of about 100 feet, they put lots of no-smoking signs up. The story I related earlier happened before that ban. It has improved, there are fewer people smoking there now, but you still get a few antisocial idiots furtively sucking on their 'fags', despite the signs. Of course they can't afford to employ a couple of full-time security guards to stand there all day long to make sure people comply with the no-smoking rule.

Back before the pandemic, before the no-smoking signs were put up, there used to be benches full of patients, with their IV drip bags on trolleys or wheeled out in wheelchairs, sitting there puffing away. It used to depress the hell out of me walking past them whenever I went to the hospital, which thankfully wasn't very often.
 
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